Saturday, September 24, 2022

Love is Not Rude...That's What the Bible Says. What I'm Doing Today. A Touching Clip.

 Rudeness.   It seems like it is everywhere doesn't it? 


You can even see it in the way people drive these days.  It displays their very spirits.


You see it in all circles.   


Young women who treat Bible studies as dating clubs leaving sweet girls out, after all...that pretty young lady might catch a young man's eye so let's not worry about her spiritual being or let alone even showing love to her. 

Middle aged women, many times those very young women's moms who do similarly to others...It just shows itself in another circle of insecurity...Perhaps leaving them from things that may effect their group of thought...Oh, we  don't want to include her because that would offend my group.  As I write, I count my blessings on much of that.  Many times God's protection.  The problem is many are hurt forever by this behavior.

People who are thoughtfully written to with nary a response.  That is rude. 


Leaving a thoughtful and polite comment on a blog, finding out it was erased later because it didn't fit into the narrative.  That is rude, it is thoughtless and disrespectful of people's time in leaving a thoughtful comment.

Recently I left a very, very complimentary and heartfelt comment to a vlogger.  I had also honestly and diplomatically mentioned that the trophy "award" from the company congratulating them for all of their many followers was in place of their normal drawing of Jesus.  The response  was less than kind let's say, rather snarky and totally void of any appreciation for my several heartfelt compliments to their vlog.  Do I listen to this vlogger couple any longer... No, I simply cannot stomach it after the rude reply from Ms. No-Manners-loud-talk.  Love is not rude.   Christ is not rude.   The husband to his credit did come later and was most kind in his reply. I wondered what kind of mother and wife the woman must be to her husband and grown kids behind the scenes.



Does a person ignore us like a rock when we mention a much needed note of concern on events, something going on in our world?  Hm...It's as if we have a giant hurricane that can destroy or it could be anything that the person doesn't want to hear.  Being a grey stone to someone who doesn't deserve it, that is rude and it also borders on emotional abuse when done face to face or actually any time.   Love is not rude.   Don't grey stone people, and especially to those who love or care about you.

I'm noticing the rudeness more and more....just more and more...A lack of consideration or care, self entitlement as well.   Love is not rude, it's not selfish, or self entitled.



Is this a sign of the times?     Maybe so.  

What can we do?   For me, I will try to be a good example.   As a highly sensitive person I will try to move on and live my life in my little home ministering to my husband especially in times when there can be rudeness from a visitor or perhaps even a loved one who is going through a twisty-turnie chapter in life and we are in the way of the carnage.   After all....That person has been maimed  by the rude ones and it affected them deeply.   My husband and I share...Yes, they've had some really bad things to happen from people in the church and gasp...fellow homeschoolers.  One of our daughters was having severe health issues that we kept quiet and during this time, a couple of girls at her work were cruel to her;  one was especially, there is always that ring leader that the weaker will follow... My mother's heart ached then and now and I see the present outcome of it.   Nothing changed it seems.  I've seen the pecking order over and over again, the territorial attitude towards friends...There are no age boundaries in this demonic behavior of control and people pleasing.  It is so sad to me...

Edit. 9.26.22  There are people who attend our very churches many times who are very comfortable in this familiar sin along with other familiar sins such as jealousy etc., it could  be prejudice of some kind.   I pray constantly about this kind of thing, none of us are immune to familiar sin. 




Jealousy and envy who can stand against it?   Gosh, the warning seems so basic but yet it is sooooo  prevalent...


I say it's a crying shame.   A crying shame.   

Edit  9.26.22    A lot of people are not going to be comfortable with the honesty and sometimes prophet nature here.   I know that.  Although you will see even more mercy shown here. Numbers on this blog will not be an idol to me. From the age of a young child I was a little different because of living in the older (but sweet!) little town where I lived, being from an old family in a community with new 'engineer' space people, many who snubbed us after we welcomed them.  When I was a teenager, a senior actually, I was in the back seat of a car with a brusque young woman a couple of years younger than I who attended my highschool , the daughter of a woman my mother and I were riding to a wedding shower with held in the large city.  She unknowingly made the comment to me about the "icky smalltown kids" (my area).  I sat there smiling knowing she had no idea who she was talking to.  (Years later I was to see the same young woman at a family funeral and she was just as rude and brusque as a married woman and mother!)  Our little family had always marched on in love minding our own business with a quiet joy and contentment not quite putting our finger on the trouble but feeling it a bit at times.  My mom was never on the phone gossiping nor did she belong to any clique.  My dad was a fiercely independent person, an entrepreneur and city councilman, both my parents were the first to reach and help the poor.   I had two sets of immigrant grandparents, Italian and German.   My Italian grandparents especially were beautiful people and my real German grandmother was a sweetheart from what I hear, she was taken when my dad was a little boy.  I have her underlined Moody Institute Bible study book.  Our family paid cash for our cars and trucks and drove them til they fell apart.  Too bad if people didn't like it.   I mention all of that to say, we were our own authentic and old fashioned people in a community that took a cruel turn for the worse and my parents did not care what many of those synthetic people thought, it wasn't even on their radar.

Let's get our hearts and households in order.  Competitive and insecure activity should not be in our churches or Christian circles, it is demonic and a familiar sin.

To heck with what people think. 



Without love we are...We all know where that is in the Bible and what it says.  

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away.1 Corinthians 13: 4-8

If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing.  1 Corinthians 13: 1-3

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Take care, be kind, be truthful though without hurting people with a fire hydrant spray to their face.


Just writing what I'm thinking and pondering...



We all know what the Bible says about rudeness verses love.   We don't want to be a bunch of noise and a bunch of  talk about nothing. Nor a deadening silence that hurts people.





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Today I'll be cleaning out my studio, I'm the kid in school that aced English when it came to writing, my drawings and art would be in the display case....But just don't look at my room before I was made to clean it and don't look at my messy notebook!  It's just the way I'm wired, but I work on it constantly.

I'll work on a matching tie belt to the simple but beautifully  floral skirt I designed.  Just a quick-quick thing.  My base design is Simplicity 4881, simple longer version.  I make my skirt a  bit less bell-like, it's A-line but not so wide on the bottom, when I'm using a stiffer fabric that works.

It will be pizza night for hubs and I, I'll simmer some frozen broccoli seasoned with garlic and olive oil to side with it, we'll watch an old 40's movie together here.  I look forward to that. 



Closing with a clip of  one of my favorite movies ever, this clip brought tears to my eyes as I watched it. 


May we take note of this clip and listen carefully to the words here til the end...  We never understand people, what they have  been through until we've walked in their shoes a bit...I think this is beautiful.  Many miss out on many a blessing, they are really missing out by not getting to know Boo Radley.

When I see Atticus with Scout I think of our Father in Heaven, this is just what He does with us...Takes us in His loving arms.   


No rudeness here...  Just beautiful.





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